So what is Zen, and what does it have to do with planning your Mountain Wedding?
First of all what Zen is not: a diet, a cult, or something that requires a lot of chanting. It’s a way of thinking, being still and mindful of each second, breathing deeply and focusing. A Zen mindset can help keep you calm when the seating plan or a relative is driving you nuts. Consider Zen a spiritual connection to your wedding planning process.
Just say to yourself, “Here and now everything is just fine”. Now let’s take a deep breath and get some Zen-like resolutions going. We want you to be a blissful bride…
- Consider kindness a way of being. It’s an expression of your love and compassion for others, including your girlfriends who gave up their lunch hours to help you make party favors and the aunt who arrived three hours early to spend some quality time with the bride (it could happen).
- Respect others’ property which includes time and energy. Asking your bffs to help you out making those favors is ok but expecting them to be available 24/7 isn’t. They clearly love and are happy for you, but remember it’s your highest priority, not theirs.
- Be Honest; do not deceive. The future hubby may want a wedding at the courthouse but you’ve always wanted, and planned on, a mountain wedding. If you say, “whatever you want, Honey,” but resent it for the rest of your life, you’re cheating both of you. Let him know what’s in your heart and work out a compromise; an honest one.
- Care for your mind and body; don’t overindulge in anything. It’s so much fun with showers, bachelorette parties and the like, but there are many temptations (food, drink, cute bartenders). You will want to fit into your dress, don’t want a hangover, and mainly, want to be able to face yourself in the morning. Moderation is the key.
- Remember, Silence is Golden. Even if one of your attendants is behaving badly (not showing up for fittings, criticizing decisions), don’t talk about her behind her back. Find out what’s bothering her and try to work out the problem.
- Be humble and don’t judge others. Remember that you are about to become part of a bigger family (his/hers) by getting married. Family members can have faults, and even if you have trouble accepting those flaws, accepting the family will make your marriage better.
- Be generous in sharing your fortune. As all those wedding gifts begin to arrive, think of the less fortunate and consider donating your current housewares (toasters, mixers) still in great condition to a thrift shop or charity.
- Keep calm and carry on. Remember this; it’s not all going to go perfectly. Accept the facts that on your wedding day you won’t be able to control the weather, crazy traffic or your sister’s mood swings. Worrying about that stuff today won’t fix potential problems tomorrow. Take a deep breath and let it go.
- Don’t lose sight of the truth. Your wedding day is a joyous occasion and celebration. It’s not about having the party of the decade. Don’t let planning your mountain wedding, decorations and the small stuff get in the way of the day’s real purpose; joining your lives together.
People from all over the world come to the Smoky Mountains, for peace and tranquility, and more than likely its part of the reason you started planning your mountain wedding here in the Smokies. If you take a little time to sit and reflect on the beauty and nature that surrounds you here in these mountains it will bring blessings to your celebration.